Even if you were madly in love when you first got married, you may have found that things have changed quite a bit. You might feel like your marriage isn’t what it used to be and aren’t sure what you should do about it. Here are some signs that your marriage isn’t healthy anymore and options for what you can do next.
Lack of Communication
Couples commonly complain that their spouse doesn’t communicate with them. Fortunately, this doesn’t necessarily mean that this is the end of your marriage. The two of you may be able to learn how to communicate better with one another by going to a couples retreat or couples therapy. These types of retreats allow couples to disconnect from the outside world and attend seminars where they learn about different communication techniques. A therapist can also work with you both on a more regular basis to help you fix communication issues in your marriage.
Constant Arguments
All couples have arguments, but it’s not healthy when that is the only way you communicate with each other. If not a day goes by without you getting into an argument with your spouse, you may want to consider therapy. A therapist will act as an unbiased person that will listen to your grievances. They will offer you and your spouse advice on how to handle certain situations without getting into an argument. They can also help you figure out if there is a deeper issue causing the strife between the two of you. If you can overcome that root problem, your relationship will be stronger and healthier.
Not Wanting to Be Around the Other Person
A lot of couples feel like they don’t have anything in common with their spouse after being married for a long time. Because of this, they often don’t want to be around each other. You may be able to get past this by trying new activities together. By trying a lot of different things, you will have fun together, find a common interest, and actually want to be around the other person.
Different Goals
Couples may realize that each person in the relationship has very different goals. Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to get past this if no one is willing to compromise. In some cases, the only way to solve this may be to see a divorce lawyer so that they can discuss their options for a divorce. While no one really wants to get a divorce, separating may be the only way for both individuals to truly feel satisfied and fulfilled in their lives again.
If your marriage just isn’t healthy anymore, you do have options. You may be able to fix the things that are damaging your marriage. If you both find that you can’t get past these issues, the best thing may be that you get a divorce so that you can both move on with your lives.
About the author:
Anita is a freelance writer from Denver, CO. She studied at Colorado State University, and now writes articles about health, business, family and finance. A mother of two, she enjoys traveling with her family whenever she isn’t writing. You can follow her on Twitter @anitaginsburg.